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Giving Till It Feels Good

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December 1 2014

1Dec

Approximately Two Thousand years ago, a very wise man said, "It is more blessed to give than receive."

(Hint: He's celebrating another birthday this Christmas.) And, although we often behave as a nation of individuals who hinge their happiness upon the latest acquisition, there seems to be sufficient enough reason to resurrect the old Jesus quote. In fact, there may be several good reasons.

First, we live in a county that continues to emphasize philanthropic giving, even in the midst of an economic downturn. In fact, from all indications, charitable donations in Sarasota County are on THE INCREASE contrary to all logical expectations.

Loving and Losing

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September 6 2013

6Sep

I sometimes hear my clients plea with their spouses or significant others in a desperate attempt to save a dying relationship. They say things like “You are throwing away 22 years together for another guy?” or “How can you waste 15 years of my life by leaving me?” or “I had to stay with her, or 34 years of my life would have been poured down the drain!”

My Secret Identity

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September 5 2013

5Sep

I can still remember the conversation, almost verbatim: "Dr. Cortman, this is Rachel from ABC Bank. How are you today, Sir?"

Me: I'm well, thank you, Rachel, unless you tell me otherwise."

Rachel: No, sir. But I did want to ask you a question: "Did you try to move your Home Equity account lately?"

Me: " Move it, no. Why do you ask?"

Rachel:"Well, we had a man in a North Carolina branch yesterday who said he was you. We have you in our files as a doctor; he told us he is a carpenter. Do you know any carpenters?"

Taking Care

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February 23 2015

23Feb

They are the unspoken heroes of any town. You don't see them around much; they are not often out and about. They work tirelessly, long hours, mostly for no financial gain and sometimes little thanks. Theirs is a true labor of love because it's a job nobody wants. They won't admit it, but often they feel trapped in a position that launches them powerlessly slipping down a slide into a dark abyss, where the only savior from the life sentence is death itself. They are the caregivers.